Coffee Share 191227

This is a Weekly Coffee Share Essay.
I’m part of a small group of bloggers who stay in touch and chat about blogging, writing, travel, photography, children, pets, work, life hacks or just about anything else that might be of interest. Here’s mine for the week of . The photo above is from the Harney & Sons Fine Teas website.
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Good day.

This is our final weekend together in 2019 and the last coffee share of this decade.

I’m not really a new year resolution kind of person, but I do appreciate a structured way to  ask and answer some questions of reflection. So — if we were having coffee today, I’d be anxious to share with you a few thoughts about starting 2020.

While I love stories from the past:

  • surprises that happened while we were innocently poking our way through the day,
  • challenges that we didn’t see coming,
  • things people did or sacrificed for us,
  • sparks of brilliant writing and,
  • emotions grabbed by the actions or inactions of another;

theses memories are all like packages beneath a tree that has been our life this past year, each bearing the possibility of changing our life is some fun and exciting way.  Opened, each can be:

  • a new lasting memory,
  • a needed insight,
  • a new toy that will be awesome,
  • a new or repaired relationship,
  • a question that deserves an answer or,
  • a winning lottery ticket with enough money to happily live out the remainder of our mortal life in total comfort, (possible but not likely),
  • a needed new tool or skill,
  • new underwear – ugh – awkward…
  • a lesson to realize, memorize, and practice.

But changing how we live our lives can be like trying to stop an ocean wave by throwing rocks and few things are as awkwardly synonymous with ‘disposable’ as a “New Year’s Resolution’.  Regardless, a new year can be a fresh slate on which to write the next year of our history. So, given that:

  • our wall clock is going to push us across the demarcation between Dec. 31, 2019 and Jan. 1, 2020 whether we like it or not, and
  • I’ve learned a few things about how I can live my life a bit better from 2019 events, 2019 people and 2019 studies,

I am not going to embarrass myself with a list of things I can easily say, but not do. I am, however, going to own:

  • getting some things done that I know I should,
  • restart some habits I know I should develop,
  • polish some skills I know need updating,
  • stop some things that are either a waste of time or actually injure others, and
  • try, once again, to live my life consistent with what I read in the Bible in First Corinthians 13.

(13) If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 if I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when the perfect comes, the partial will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I have been fully known.

13 So now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.

Regardless of our personal “religious” inclinations, I think there is a lot of wisdom, suitable for anyone, in these few words.  I chose to pursue understanding and, wherever possible, doing them. Expect some progress and more than a few missteps, but this is what I’m going to put on my slate for 2020.

I’m also sure that you have some better ideas on this than me.  Come on – let’s hear them.  I’m always anxious to learn from others with different ways of seeing things.  What’s going on your slate?

Many of us have been doing these coffee meetings for a long time.  Can I close with saying what a delight it has been sharing this virtual meeting with each of you?  I’m looking forward to more in 2020.

Blessings all!

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9 thoughts on “Coffee Share 191227

  1. I like the way you used that Bible passage as a life guide –
    So often we see it at weddings – oh and I know a VBS song with that passage.
    Sounds like you have a nice mindset going into 2020… balanced and set on improving but knowing life is not perfect,
    And for us – the only thing on my list right now are a few house projects – like we want to get rid of a piano and few other things to change up

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    1. Hello Prior, HNY to you and yours. And yes, I’ve thought before that we are not using this chapter enough because this principal, used more widely could resolve all kinds of problems we suffer from. I’m so glad you stopped by.

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  2. Verses 1, 2, and 3 speak to me, most recently in the realm of teaching. I have a group of kids who always hug me when they first see me. I remind them to do a side hug, and I never refuse a hug to a child who asks for one. And I feel like I am really reaching them. I am in a public school where everything is secular; I cannot preach or talk about loving Jesus, but I can love these little people…because that is what Jesus would do. I like your New Year’s resolution, by the way! Happy New Year, Gary, if we don’t correspond before then.

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  3. I always love reading your writing! Having coffee with you every weekend has been a highlight of my year. I am so blessed to know so many wonderful writers around the world. You have enhanced my life! Thank you


    1. Hi Tammy and thanks for your very kind words. I do love sharing creating and sharing these essays.

      Hey – I read and tried to comment on your coffee share for today, but am getting an error. Here’s what I wanted to say:

      Hi Tammy,
      I’m not much of a party guy. To much of what many others think is fun is somehow lost on me. I did go to one given by my employer of the first professional job I got right after trade school - back in the days when I really was young and dumb. I wrote it up a few years back and it’s had a couple of quick clean up passes. You might get a kick out of it, but it may remind you too of why we might be well advised to just pass on these things. 
      Here’s the link if you need a quick laugh. I do wish I could say that this happened to some one else, but no – I was the young and dumb man this happened to.


  4. I am curious about this being the last year of the decade… I have seen some interesting points about and yet to find expert opinion…

    That is one of my favourite bible verses maybe because its one of the few I know by head from when we used to cram memory verses

    All the best in the new year

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