Coffee Share 201010: It’s a Wrap

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Greetings all,
 
Again, with thanks to Alli for providing this platform for us, it is good to be back.  Some of you will recall that I was missing last week as we made the 6-hour drive north to SW Oregon for the wedding of our first born to a wonderful woman.
 
I want to find a good balance on this.  Few of you would know our son, Connor, enough to really care about his wedding other than just being polite but there are some who do care and want details, so I’ll try to be brief and interesting.
 
Wedding Travel
The service was to be just over the California/Oregon border and very near the Pacific coast.  Northern California was still burning so we were in smoke most of the drive up.  With decent cabin filters and the AC set to recirculate the cabin air, it was tolerable but Benadryl helped with runny eyes.
 
South central Oregon and much of mid central as well is also burning and this left us dependent on which direction the wind blew for the days before and during the wedding.
 
It was like we were in a bubble of clean air the whole time we were north of the California border and the service was clear, fresh and everyone enjoyed a smoke-free chance to focus on our bride and her groom.
 
Wedding Service
Our new daughter-in-law had a very specific vision of what she wanted for her wedding.  She balanced tradition with distinction, religious with playful, and covid-consciousness with engaging technology that allowed many to participate via Zoom web conferencing.
The bride and groom customized their vows and Connor sang the song he wrote for her. They built-into the service items that honored their parents, family and fiends.
 
I officiated the service itself and too, tried to balance our religious with our playful sensibilities, as I shared “The Story” of how they were raised, met, overcame obstacles that should have kept them apart, got engaged and carved their way to this altar in an open field surrounded by redwoods, clean air, friends, family, and our God.  Rings were shared,  The nearly standard pronouncement was said and first kisses were witnessed followed by the new couple running out down the isle through a tunnel of bubbles.
 
Sadly, pictures are not yet available.
 
Home again
We made another long drive home, through the California smoke and sent our new couple off to a short honeymoon because they both have work and Connor also has undergrad work he’s finishing off. 
 
So yes, we (as a larger extended family) are trying to bury some of this covidated 2020 with as much joy as we can with a quick and beautiful wedding experience and start of a new family.
 
Work has been very quiet so I’m getting some training done myself and, now that the wedding and my part is history, am looking forward to getting some writing done.
 
We had really hot weather for three days after we got home and smoky air – not much fun to unpack in as ash settled around the property, but then mid-week, someone threw a switch and we dropped about 20 degrees from our daily highs and FALL stood up and declared that it’s now its turn and we have clear air, refreshing temperatures and less stuff to stress about.
 
I’m going to enjoy a quieter Saturday and engage my writing plans right after I walk our virtual isles and catch up with how you all are faring. 
 
Talk to you in a few.
 

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18 thoughts on “Coffee Share 201010: It’s a Wrap

  1. What a wonderful joy! Thanks for sharing. Sure beats all the negative news of late. Here, the leaves are just beginning to change. The green hills are dotted with bright red maple trees. The Oaks, not wanting to be outdone are starting to pop up with their yellows…and I do believe there’s some shy birches displaying their oranges on the ridge over yonder. Ah, such a lovely fall. Yesterday it was 84, last night 41… the ups and downs of temps means layering shirts, sweaters, and carrying a bumper-shoot just in case. This morning’s sky is thick with heavy grey clouds. For some reason (it cuts the uv) this always makes the leaves seem just a bit brighter. We’ll have some smoke later when I fire up the bbq (I’ve got some paperwork that needs to be disposed of), and maybe we’ll roast a few dogs and marshmallows. My 40+ yr old dutch oven bit the dust a few weeks ago. It just went crackers. LOL! So, no apple butter over the fire, yet. The store didn’t have any new ones in stock at the moment. I could make the apple butter on the stove inside, but that’s no fun at all. 🙂 ❤ Take a break, Gary, enjoy some writing.

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  2. Sounds like a very nice ceremony. Glad you had that pocket of clean air for it! All of the smoke sounds awful. Also glad fall arrived there. We have been having an odd fall, but, then, in 2020, what’s new? Hope your weekend is going well and that you have a wonderful week next week!

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  3. I am so happy to hear about this beautiful wedding. I can understand that it must have been somewhat nerv wrecking with the surrounding fires. I am glad fall has arrived in California! That is a beautiful season! Enjoy the quietness and your writing.

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  4. It is nice to hear about the wedding. Congratulations to you and your family again. I love that you officiated the service, so personal and memorable. Have a great week.

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    1. Just last night, we had dinner with the new bride and groom. We laughed about how my favored seat allowed mostly just me to notice how badly her makeup failed as tears of joy burst from her almost immediately as the service began. Priceless memories.
      Can I offer you a glass of cool apple cider?

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  5. Wedding are always wonderful events especially when they have their own personalities and it sounds like your son’s certainly did. Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week.

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  6. I love wedding stories. It sounds like everyone made the commitment that a marriage was going to happen, no matter what. And it did, and now everyone has beautiful memories of a special day.Congrats, Dad-in-law. Have a great week.

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  7. super glad it all worked smoothly and congratulations to the bride and groom
    yep covid has as blending tradition with tech… attending a zoom wedding in a couple of weeks .
    ~B

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    1. You have triggered an idea.
      You and I should host a zoom coffee meet-up for our peers from our coffee share.
      I’d love to hear your voices and you and I could figure out some fun questions that people would be asked to share their answers to that go further than do our normal shares in learning about folks and building some fun international relationships.

      BTW :: It took my wife and I, 2 days to fully rest up after that marathon of a wedding but it was soooo worth every minute.

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      1. Thats an idea.. I would definitely sign up although timezones might need some considerations to make sure that the time isnt too outrageous for some
        but yeah lets do this.. I am in.
        ~B

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      2. Cool. Let’s work this through.
        Can we move the discussion to email?
        An effort of this caliber deserves a firmer & more secure medium.
        I have a few ideas I bet you could improve on or polish.
        Please email me at work.
        Gary.wilson@oracle.com
        and I’ll respond back with what I think I know about the audience locations

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  8. Gary, I was looking forward to hearing about how the wedding went. Funny that when we’ve never met in person and I have barely the sketchiest details of your son. However, perhaps it was your enthusiasm for the event, or the fact you were travelling and also in a different part of the world but it was exciting to be a random onlooker from all the way across here in Sydney which is currently experiencing Spring verging on Summer weather with bright sunshine and heat.
    I’m about to head off to pick up our son who is doing work experience this week. I’m still not getting my head around him being 16.5 years old and finishing school at the end of next year. Moreover, I’m also struggling to believe that I turned 50 last year and I’m no longer 25.
    Best wishes,
    Rowena

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    1. Hi Rowena. I recognize that same feeling. I was excited for your daughter when she enjoyed such success with her ballet and worried that she might find out that some weird guy from the US knew about her and was strangely interested in her success and might not understand or care to understand that we parental types are just like this with our kids. Building a type of a relationship with friends me may never meet is actually very familiar to me since I’ve been in IT for so long. I’ll bet Geoff could say the same, but I like it. You’ve given me glimpses of life around Sydney that I really enjoy and we never know, but we could easily dream up scenarios that unexpectedly put us in each others neighborhood and needing to ring each other for good hotel & pub recommendations – which would be quite the hoot – don’t you think?
      Ah yes, as your boy closes out his teen years, pay attention because it will pass quickly and then soon, you too will be up near him as he asks for the ring to start his own new family.
      You might be well advised to just start hording boxes and boxes of tissues now.
      Blessings.

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      1. If you were coming for a visit, I’d talk my friend Neil into putting you up as his place, which he calls the treehouse, although getting up the stairs might be an issue. His place is like a living, breathing museum with vintage an antique tools on the wall, books etc. It’s like a fairyland in many ways.
        It has crossed my mind that we might only have a year or so of our son living at home. Then again, some kids never move out so it’s hard to know.
        I had quite a shock last weekend when I head about a nasty car accident with a carload of 6 young local men hit a tree. The driver was going about 180kph and was under the influence of alcohol and drugs. One maybe two of the passengers are in a coma. I didn’t hear about it til last Sunday and it sent shock waves through me, especially as a friend’s son was in the car. I haven’t seen her for a long time but we used to have coffee every week when our boys were in kindergarten with a group of us. Quite aside from that, it really brought it home that our kids are now at that age when they could be in that car and that is the definition of a horror movie if ever there was one. All of us know someone who died far too young in a car accident and never really grew up. It’s tragic. I’ve spent a bit of time with my friend and she’s coincidentally moving house so a few of us helped her move. It was good because by providing the practical support, we were able to talk. I could listen. I know myself that I struggle to find the words at times, but listening is often more important.
        I hope you have a good weekend. It’s already Friday.
        Best wishes,
        Rowena

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